Forgiveness

Forgiving yourself and others is not only powerful but immensely healing.

It took the potential death of my body via cancer that made me realize that how some one feels about me is "their problem" not mine.  I don't need to know the"why" for their decision for not speaking to me for 40 years.  I had two family members choose to turn away from me and reject me.  For many years I tried to get my father to accept me.  I also spend decades wondering what I had done to a sibling for them to not speak to or have any contact--they never called nor returned my calls.  This took a lot of energy away from my enjoying life.  The energy wasted was in the form of the inner dialog I had with them and the sadness of feeling rejected/unloved.

When I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer my sibling began talking to me.  It angered me--how dare you be nice to me because you know I'm going to die.  I'm no different now then I was a year or 40 yrs ago.   Then I realized it was time to forgive them both.  I was not going to spend the last days/months/years of my life being unhappy or angry.  I had wasted enough of my life trying to understand the why.  

When I came to the realization and acceptance that their feelings towards me had "absolutely" nothing to do with me, everything shifted.  I no longer needed to know the why and I felt a calmness within that has never been there.  My mind no longer has conversations or a feeling of needing to defend myself.  Ahhhhh-peace at last!!!

Don't wait until you have a life threating situation before you realize you need and can forgive others.  It is their issues that has made them feel the way they do about you--although I will say there is one exception.  If you have been cruel, abusive or harmful in any way then that is your fault.   But the need to FORGIVE is still needed for you to come to a place of peace.  

Forgive yourself and others...Let it go.   The reward is worth it.

Blessings
Love & Light

More Info

You can obtain more information and how to in my book Healing Your Heart.  Go to books and there is a fast link to Amazon making it easy to buy.  Available in both paperback and e-book.


Blessings on your journey.