Friends and Dieing

As you may know, I have stage 4 cancer and now feel that my time for transition is really upon me.   So I wanted to have you think about those you know that may be very ill or be in that position some day, that includes you. 

A year ago I told some of my friends, those that don't live near me that I wasn't sure I'd live to see the end of 2012, actually the Dr. didn't think I'd make it past 2010 and for sure 2011.  But here I am.  But that's not my message.

My message is that if you have someone you care about that is seriously ill DON'T ignore them.   Some of my friends haven't called once during this past year.  Someone told me it was probably due to their discomfort about death.  So if you are uncomfortable and don't stay in touch remember you will never have another opportunity to talk, laugh, cry or say you love them once they are gone.  You might get notified that they have past or you won't know for months.  

How would you feel if you knew you were going to die, not sure of the exact date but knew death was coming--would you want to be ignored by people you have cared about and loved?????  I feel that they really don't care even though they post differently on social media.

Even if you connect once a month they will feel you care--not a call in a year says otherwise--at least that might be how they see or feel it to be.

Connect--it will be your last chance to love and care.

Blessing
In Love & Light
Judy

Religion and God

   Having been raised in a traditional, Baptist,Christian home I have a decent knowledge of religious dogma.In my twenties I stopped going to church and began questioning the rules I was taught with regards to what denotes a sin, way to God, Jesus and heaven.  Although this isn't the first time I had questions.  When I was ten I remember wondering what God did with all of us in heaven since I understood that there had been a lot of people who had died before I was born--I mean thousands/millions--from the cave man till 1960.

These questions helped me realize that I didn't need a minister, guru or anyone telling me how to connect with God.   Why did I come to that conclusion?    It was easy.  After doing some research I concluded that most belief systems have some image of a God but have different names for their deity.    And that the essence of said is "love".  The Christian belief is that we are made in God's image.  The problem I find is that humans get it backwards.  They refer to God as a "he/him".  Yet, no one has seen the form of God and many believe that God is formless and therefore in Spirit form.   So God is Spirit and Love.  Therefore if we are in God's image then we are Spirit riding around in a body and our essence/spirit is love as well. 

That's an easy concept for everyone.  Why does religion make it so difficult?  You might believe we are born as sinners.  Again why would a loving God make everyone a bad person?  And if God made you as you are then you are perfect and all will go to heaven.  What makes us so called "bad" is some of the choices made while walking down this road of life.  (Not commenting on those with mental health issues.  That is a separate problem and yet we are seeing more and more of it.  But, I'm sure God has a plan for that as well.  Not to question.)

You, me and everyone else is made in God's image of love and Spirit.  That is the very reason I don't need 50,000 ( I have no idea how many there really are but it seems like a lot) varieties of dogma to help me connect with God.  I, just as you and those spirits that come into a body, can go directly to the source--God.  You don't need anyone telling you what is right or wrong because when you come from your heart with love and compassion you'll do what is right.  If you love yourself you won't hurt others.  The more internal love you have the more you can express love.  If you are angry you will express anger.  You can choose how you want to live---talk to God.  Remember that any minister, priest, Pope , etc.that say they talk with God, they are human beings like you.  They don't have any gifts that you don't so there isn't any reason why you can't talk directly to God as well..  Right!!!

Help this world end religious wars by accepting others difference and connect with God from within.  Stop the bigotry, judgement and homophobia to mention a few.  ( By the way every time a man sleeps with a woman while she is menstruating he is committing the same sin as gays and yet no one in religious circles mentions it.  Talk about hypocrisy.  You can't pick and choose if you follow the Bible.)

P.S.  I don't believe the Bible is the word of God.  It's history and is written by other "human beings" no different than you or me.  They put their programming in the Bible just as others do with whatever they write.  And besides I have a hard time buying into God having only one son (we are all sons and daughter of God) and that there is only one book written just two thousand years  ago.  What about the other thousands of years before, are all those people in hell?

Turn within. Love yourself. Talk with God and be a Loving human being.  Express love to others by accepting who they are right now.  

God is Love and Spirit--you are in that image.  Live through it!!!!!

Blessing
Love & Light

Forgiveness

Forgiving yourself and others is not only powerful but immensely healing.

It took the potential death of my body via cancer that made me realize that how some one feels about me is "their problem" not mine.  I don't need to know the"why" for their decision for not speaking to me for 40 years.  I had two family members choose to turn away from me and reject me.  For many years I tried to get my father to accept me.  I also spend decades wondering what I had done to a sibling for them to not speak to or have any contact--they never called nor returned my calls.  This took a lot of energy away from my enjoying life.  The energy wasted was in the form of the inner dialog I had with them and the sadness of feeling rejected/unloved.

When I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer my sibling began talking to me.  It angered me--how dare you be nice to me because you know I'm going to die.  I'm no different now then I was a year or 40 yrs ago.   Then I realized it was time to forgive them both.  I was not going to spend the last days/months/years of my life being unhappy or angry.  I had wasted enough of my life trying to understand the why.  

When I came to the realization and acceptance that their feelings towards me had "absolutely" nothing to do with me, everything shifted.  I no longer needed to know the why and I felt a calmness within that has never been there.  My mind no longer has conversations or a feeling of needing to defend myself.  Ahhhhh-peace at last!!!

Don't wait until you have a life threating situation before you realize you need and can forgive others.  It is their issues that has made them feel the way they do about you--although I will say there is one exception.  If you have been cruel, abusive or harmful in any way then that is your fault.   But the need to FORGIVE is still needed for you to come to a place of peace.  

Forgive yourself and others...Let it go.   The reward is worth it.

Blessings
Love & Light

More Info

You can obtain more information and how to in my book Healing Your Heart.  Go to books and there is a fast link to Amazon making it easy to buy.  Available in both paperback and e-book.


Blessings on your journey.

Mirrors

Every day you are confronted with mirrors  They may be people, anything that happens in your life whether is considered good or bad.  You have a choice as to how you respond and use what happened or how you view those you interact with.  No matter what or who these mirrors can help you heal problems/issues you have and make it possible for you to change the course and way your life is headed.  You have the opportunity to better understand yourself and come to terms with the unhealthy beliefs you hold towards self and release them.  Thus you change your life.  You will find more inner calm and happiness.

But, how do you understand what these mirrors are telling you.Everything that happens, even on a daily basis, relates to your life up until this moment and its relationship to how you accept or reject parts of who you have become.  If someone rejects you and you feel unloved them you can look back to acknowledge who you really feel doesn't love you.  Did a parent reject you, abandon or push you away?  That is the individual you really want to love you, not the one who is currently rejecting you. Then it's important for you to understand that that person will never love you and what do you do about it?

What you do is understand that no one will ever love you the way you want or need.  Therefore it is up to you to love yourself.  I don't mean this in a self-center way.  I mean love and accept you and comfort you instead of needing to go to others for that love and comfort.  Go in your "Heart" to love you not your mind.  Nothing will heal or release if you do nothing but analyze the problem.  Loving self will help you and you will find forgiveness for others as well as yourself. 

Life can and will change if you use others and situations as mirrors to better understand what you think of self.

Blessings
In Love & Light

Healing the Body from Abuse/Attack

This is one of the techniques I use to help myself an d others heal from rape and abuse.  I will share another, very important, technique for reclaiming the part of you that was taken away another time.

  Dr. Phil addressed the issue of Domestic Violence on his show. Anyone who has been abuse/attacked continues to carry the energy of their attacker. The following technique is one way to begin releasing said energy. Also, try different forms of body work. This technique comes from my book 71 Fun Ways to Make Life Easier.

Name Physical Traits

This is a really good technique to use when the “Gold Sun” technique isn’t enough. Some individual’s energy is more difficult to send back because they want to remain attached to you for whatever the reason. To further separate your energies you will use “positive” physical traits or characteristics. This helps to further distinguish you from him or her. Also, because the person may be more difficult to eliminate from your energy, be clear of your intent. It is your intent to bring your energy back to your body from their body and send their energy back to them from your body. Whenever you have clear intent, be sure you are coming from your heart. If you get mad because the person is hanging on and send your intent with that anger you won’t be successful. Generally people hang on to someone because they want attention, to be noticed or possibly forgiven. When you send them your anger they will hang on until you accept or love them. I don’t mean deep emotional love. I mean loving acceptance of who they are and that they exist.
Here’s how it works. With loving intent use five to ten “positive” physical characteristic differences between you and someone else. You may need to name more than ten depending on how attached the individual is to your energy. The example below will help you. Avoid using negative terms to describe characteristics. For example, instead of saying, “I have long nails, and she doesn’t have long nails,” say, “I have long nails and her nails are short.” Always use the verbiage, “My name is and her/his name is.” This defines whom you are describing and whose energy belongs where. If you don't know their name use "He" has....

My name is Tony.
I have blonde hair.
Her name is Anne.
She has brown hair.

My name is Tony.
I am a male.
Her name is Anne.
She is a female.

My name is Tony.
I have blue eyes.
Her name is Anne.
She has green eyes.

Other traits or characteristic differences that you can use are your age; whether you are married, single or divorced; number of siblings or children; where you live, by either the street, city or state; height or weight; or the type or number of pets. As you can see it’s not just the physical characteristics of the body that distinguish you from others. You can include anything that is around you that is different from their surroundings. The more differences you come up with the better the separation of energies.
You may feel your energies separate or you may not. It’s not necessary for you to feel the energy shifts within your body. (The more you work with energy the more sensitive you will become to feeling the energy changes.) Even though you don’t feel a shift or change in your body, you should begin to feel better emotionally and physically. Eventually you will stop thinking about or feeling the presence of the other person.




Blessings on your Healing!

Miracles

sorry not everything came through in previous post--it's now complete

Some are calling me a miracle and here"s why.  Generally anyone with stage 4 cancer is looked at "going to die".  I was diagnosed in Oct 2009 as stage 4, expected to be dead by the end of 2011 for sure by 2012.  Two Dr.'s told me to enter Hospice the summer of 2012.  I did and left in Oct 2012 because I didn't feel like the end was that close.  I did go home and say good-bye to my family in Oct 2012.

In the meantime I looked at my issues of not deserving to live and a freaky one that was a result of my religious upbringing.  I was made to feel like I was a "bad girl" for having sex before marriage. I discovered that my subconscious now felt that the cancer was my punishment.  I know logically that isn't true but the imprinting of religion over road those thoughts.    But the point of my bringing these issues up is that by healing them I believe a miracle has happened.  I decided, after years of wanting to die, that I actually wanted to live.  But, in the past 3.5 yrs have been given numerous opportunities to die and yet I'm still here.

I know that my attitude, healing my issues and deciding to live has changed everything for me.  I may not get 20 yrs but the fact that I have gone from stage 4 to remission is a MIRACLE in and of itself.  Remission means that there are no new cells, some have reduced in size while others have dissolved.

BELIEVE IN MIRACLES AND HEAL THE ISSUES THAT KEEP THE MIRACLE FROM HAPPENING!!!

Blessing

In Love & Light

Living with Cancer

Having lived with stage 4 cancer for almost four years, I can attest to the importance of attitude.  When I enter the infusion room I see individuals with a variety of expressions on their faces and body language.  Some are angry, many are sad, some look defeated and others are scared.  Understandable considering what they are facing.  Cancer is usually associated with death--that's what most people think of first when they hear the word.

When I was first diagnosed I cried--common response.  I also wanted to know how much time I had left.  It was indicted that I might have a year.  (To her credit she, not the DR, regrets saying it and said she doesn't usually answer that question.)  I'm glad she told me because it made me really look at my issues and how I was going to deal with this information.  I felt I had issues that caused cancer to develop and wanted to clear them up so I could die in peace.  I also decided that I was not going to be afraid, angry or fall into self pity or why me attitude.

I found that my attitude was so important.  If you remain in any state of depression or anger you will miss out on the enjoyment of the time you have left.   And, I believe, you add to the emotions that feeds cancer.  If you deal with your anger and fear you will begin to enjoy every moment with everyone and everything you encounter.  Why not love every moment that you have left.  Do your bucket list or make one if you don't have one.  Stay away from self pity/poor me attitude.  Love and Live life to the fullest.

Blessings
Love & Light

Rape

Haven't written due to the effects of chemo.  It makes me a bit tired and I feel very toxic.

Have you heard about the top news station and their attitude with regards to the rape and conviction of two football player.  They feel that it's too bad that their football careers will be affected--  no mention of how this will affect the entire life of a 16 yr old girl. 

If boys-men aren't held accountable then we as a society will continue to support rape--it will never end with this kind of thinking.

Pray for an end to rape and sexual abuse!!!!

Love and Light to all survivors and those who took their lives because they were raped.

Books

Check out my books on my blog:  Self Healing and Energy techniques

Not Meant to BE

Have you ever tried putting something together and it falls apart? Do you then get mad at yourself or someone for the, so called, failure? 

Nothing that happens in your life is a failure.  Everything that occurs happens for a reason be it because you're on the wrong path, you're not listening to yourself and there's another way, or you are just to stubborn to let go.  When things don't work out don't get upset.  Instead take a step back and ask yourself, "is this project for my highest good"?  Listen for the answer or pay attention to your bodies reaction.  You will get a yes or no in your mind or your body will become tense or relaxed--and that feeling may last for only a moment--so listen closely.

If you get a no or feel tense then the universe-God-whatever you call it--is telling you that there is something better out there for you.  Instead of being upset, switch gears.  Ask for guidance.  For example, say "0kay, if this isn't right for me then I ask that something better or direction be shown to me."  

If you get a yes or your body feels relaxed but the project isn't working yet, ask to be shown where it's wrong and what you can do to correct it. 

Life is but a challenge of lessons.  Don't see things as failures but an indication that you need to be on a different path and ask that the right doors be open to you.  
Remember to ask for help from the universe and work with it not against it.

Blessing on your journey

Essence

I am Essence. I come into this body so I can use sight to appreciate the beauty of this planet. I use touch to feel the texture of life, smell to enjoy the aroma's around me, taste-for the exquisite flavors and the ability to hear life as it occurs.

Without this body those experiences would not be possible. thank you body for all you do for me in this world.

New Blogger

As a newcomer to blogging I want to reach out and help others.  My hope is to help you end the chaos in your life and find a more meaningful way to live.  Instead of living in a box of the 3rd dimension expand the way you see and interact with the world.  It's not what the world or others are doing to you; it's what you can learn about yourself and heal.  Everything that happens in your life is a "golden opportunity" for you to better understand and love yourself.  There are no mistakes or failures, just opportunities to change.

Blessings
In Love & Light
Judy

Life's Purpose

For years I questioned what others believe is our purpose on this planet. It has been held, by many that one's purpose has to do with the work you do or that you are here to help others. But, it just seemed to me that there are too many individuals working at dead end jobs; too tired to help others because of their work or family responsibilities; or that life just dealt them a difficult path to walk. If you look around, how many people do you know that are doing work they enjoy and makes them feel fulfilled? Not many! Do you think that the store clerks, receptionist or even your postal service person feel like they are fulfilling their purpose in life? I don't think so and therefore I don't believe that the work someone does has anything to do with one's purpose on earth. If so many can't fulfill what is believed to be one's purpose then is it possible that we humans have a different purpose for being here?

My belief is this: the reason for being here on this planet and the purpose that all humans can accomplish is for each of us to discover who we are and who we are not. That is, you are to learn that you are not the unhealthy beliefs that you now hold. Instead, you are to learn that, in spite of all the unhealthy beliefs you hold and have been taught, you are a Beautiful Being of Light and Love and therefore a Spiritual Being residing in a body, not a Human Being with a Spirit. Let me state that again, you are not a human being with a spirit, you are a Spiritual Being residing in a body. You are to live as a Spiritual Being filled with love, compassion and knowing that we are all one. You are to live as a Spiritual Being instead of a human being filled with fear, anger, hate, prejudice, shame, holding the unhealthy beliefs that you’re not smart enough, good enough, loveable or a nice person. You are love and can express that through your being by Healing Your Heart.
It is for you to overcome all the unhealthy beliefs you have been
taught from birth and to know and believe how beautiful you and
others truly are.

 Live as a SPIRITUAL BEING!