As you may know, I have stage 4 cancer and now feel that my time for transition is really upon me. So I wanted to have you think about those you know that may be very ill or be in that position some day, that includes you.
A year ago I told some of my friends, those that don't live near me that I wasn't sure I'd live to see the end of 2012, actually the Dr. didn't think I'd make it past 2010 and for sure 2011. But here I am. But that's not my message.
My message is that if you have someone you care about that is seriously ill DON'T ignore them. Some of my friends haven't called once during this past year. Someone told me it was probably due to their discomfort about death. So if you are uncomfortable and don't stay in touch remember you will never have another opportunity to talk, laugh, cry or say you love them once they are gone. You might get notified that they have past or you won't know for months.
How would you feel if you knew you were going to die, not sure of the exact date but knew death was coming--would you want to be ignored by people you have cared about and loved????? I feel that they really don't care even though they post differently on social media.
Even if you connect once a month they will feel you care--not a call in a year says otherwise--at least that might be how they see or feel it to be.
Connect--it will be your last chance to love and care.
Blessing
In Love & Light
Judy
Tuesday, July 30, 2013
Monday, June 3, 2013
Religion and God
Having been raised in a traditional, Baptist,Christian home I have a decent knowledge of religious dogma.In my twenties I stopped going to church and began questioning the rules I was taught with regards to what denotes a sin, way to God, Jesus and heaven. Although this isn't the first time I had questions. When I was ten I remember wondering what God did with all of us in heaven since I understood that there had been a lot of people who had died before I was born--I mean thousands/millions--from the cave man till 1960.
These questions helped me realize that I didn't need a minister, guru or anyone telling me how to connect with God. Why did I come to that conclusion? It was easy. After doing some research I concluded that most belief systems have some image of a God but have different names for their deity. And that the essence of said is "love". The Christian belief is that we are made in God's image. The problem I find is that humans get it backwards. They refer to God as a "he/him". Yet, no one has seen the form of God and many believe that God is formless and therefore in Spirit form. So God is Spirit and Love. Therefore if we are in God's image then we are Spirit riding around in a body and our essence/spirit is love as well.
That's an easy concept for everyone. Why does religion make it so difficult? You might believe we are born as sinners. Again why would a loving God make everyone a bad person? And if God made you as you are then you are perfect and all will go to heaven. What makes us so called "bad" is some of the choices made while walking down this road of life. (Not commenting on those with mental health issues. That is a separate problem and yet we are seeing more and more of it. But, I'm sure God has a plan for that as well. Not to question.)
You, me and everyone else is made in God's image of love and Spirit. That is the very reason I don't need 50,000 ( I have no idea how many there really are but it seems like a lot) varieties of dogma to help me connect with God. I, just as you and those spirits that come into a body, can go directly to the source--God. You don't need anyone telling you what is right or wrong because when you come from your heart with love and compassion you'll do what is right. If you love yourself you won't hurt others. The more internal love you have the more you can express love. If you are angry you will express anger. You can choose how you want to live---talk to God. Remember that any minister, priest, Pope , etc.that say they talk with God, they are human beings like you. They don't have any gifts that you don't so there isn't any reason why you can't talk directly to God as well.. Right!!!
Help this world end religious wars by accepting others difference and connect with God from within. Stop the bigotry, judgement and homophobia to mention a few. ( By the way every time a man sleeps with a woman while she is menstruating he is committing the same sin as gays and yet no one in religious circles mentions it. Talk about hypocrisy. You can't pick and choose if you follow the Bible.)
P.S. I don't believe the Bible is the word of God. It's history and is written by other "human beings" no different than you or me. They put their programming in the Bible just as others do with whatever they write. And besides I have a hard time buying into God having only one son (we are all sons and daughter of God) and that there is only one book written just two thousand years ago. What about the other thousands of years before, are all those people in hell?
Turn within. Love yourself. Talk with God and be a Loving human being. Express love to others by accepting who they are right now.
God is Love and Spirit--you are in that image. Live through it!!!!!
Blessing
Love & Light
These questions helped me realize that I didn't need a minister, guru or anyone telling me how to connect with God. Why did I come to that conclusion? It was easy. After doing some research I concluded that most belief systems have some image of a God but have different names for their deity. And that the essence of said is "love". The Christian belief is that we are made in God's image. The problem I find is that humans get it backwards. They refer to God as a "he/him". Yet, no one has seen the form of God and many believe that God is formless and therefore in Spirit form. So God is Spirit and Love. Therefore if we are in God's image then we are Spirit riding around in a body and our essence/spirit is love as well.
That's an easy concept for everyone. Why does religion make it so difficult? You might believe we are born as sinners. Again why would a loving God make everyone a bad person? And if God made you as you are then you are perfect and all will go to heaven. What makes us so called "bad" is some of the choices made while walking down this road of life. (Not commenting on those with mental health issues. That is a separate problem and yet we are seeing more and more of it. But, I'm sure God has a plan for that as well. Not to question.)
You, me and everyone else is made in God's image of love and Spirit. That is the very reason I don't need 50,000 ( I have no idea how many there really are but it seems like a lot) varieties of dogma to help me connect with God. I, just as you and those spirits that come into a body, can go directly to the source--God. You don't need anyone telling you what is right or wrong because when you come from your heart with love and compassion you'll do what is right. If you love yourself you won't hurt others. The more internal love you have the more you can express love. If you are angry you will express anger. You can choose how you want to live---talk to God. Remember that any minister, priest, Pope , etc.that say they talk with God, they are human beings like you. They don't have any gifts that you don't so there isn't any reason why you can't talk directly to God as well.. Right!!!
Help this world end religious wars by accepting others difference and connect with God from within. Stop the bigotry, judgement and homophobia to mention a few. ( By the way every time a man sleeps with a woman while she is menstruating he is committing the same sin as gays and yet no one in religious circles mentions it. Talk about hypocrisy. You can't pick and choose if you follow the Bible.)
P.S. I don't believe the Bible is the word of God. It's history and is written by other "human beings" no different than you or me. They put their programming in the Bible just as others do with whatever they write. And besides I have a hard time buying into God having only one son (we are all sons and daughter of God) and that there is only one book written just two thousand years ago. What about the other thousands of years before, are all those people in hell?
Turn within. Love yourself. Talk with God and be a Loving human being. Express love to others by accepting who they are right now.
God is Love and Spirit--you are in that image. Live through it!!!!!
Blessing
Love & Light
Thursday, May 2, 2013
Forgiveness
Forgiving yourself and others is not only powerful but immensely healing.
It took the potential death of my body via cancer that made me realize that how some one feels about me is "their problem" not mine. I don't need to know the"why" for their decision for not speaking to me for 40 years. I had two family members choose to turn away from me and reject me. For many years I tried to get my father to accept me. I also spend decades wondering what I had done to a sibling for them to not speak to or have any contact--they never called nor returned my calls. This took a lot of energy away from my enjoying life. The energy wasted was in the form of the inner dialog I had with them and the sadness of feeling rejected/unloved.
When I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer my sibling began talking to me. It angered me--how dare you be nice to me because you know I'm going to die. I'm no different now then I was a year or 40 yrs ago. Then I realized it was time to forgive them both. I was not going to spend the last days/months/years of my life being unhappy or angry. I had wasted enough of my life trying to understand the why.
When I came to the realization and acceptance that their feelings towards me had "absolutely" nothing to do with me, everything shifted. I no longer needed to know the why and I felt a calmness within that has never been there. My mind no longer has conversations or a feeling of needing to defend myself. Ahhhhh-peace at last!!!
Don't wait until you have a life threating situation before you realize you need and can forgive others. It is their issues that has made them feel the way they do about you--although I will say there is one exception. If you have been cruel, abusive or harmful in any way then that is your fault. But the need to FORGIVE is still needed for you to come to a place of peace.
Forgive yourself and others...Let it go. The reward is worth it.
Blessings
Love & Light
It took the potential death of my body via cancer that made me realize that how some one feels about me is "their problem" not mine. I don't need to know the"why" for their decision for not speaking to me for 40 years. I had two family members choose to turn away from me and reject me. For many years I tried to get my father to accept me. I also spend decades wondering what I had done to a sibling for them to not speak to or have any contact--they never called nor returned my calls. This took a lot of energy away from my enjoying life. The energy wasted was in the form of the inner dialog I had with them and the sadness of feeling rejected/unloved.
When I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer my sibling began talking to me. It angered me--how dare you be nice to me because you know I'm going to die. I'm no different now then I was a year or 40 yrs ago. Then I realized it was time to forgive them both. I was not going to spend the last days/months/years of my life being unhappy or angry. I had wasted enough of my life trying to understand the why.
When I came to the realization and acceptance that their feelings towards me had "absolutely" nothing to do with me, everything shifted. I no longer needed to know the why and I felt a calmness within that has never been there. My mind no longer has conversations or a feeling of needing to defend myself. Ahhhhh-peace at last!!!
Don't wait until you have a life threating situation before you realize you need and can forgive others. It is their issues that has made them feel the way they do about you--although I will say there is one exception. If you have been cruel, abusive or harmful in any way then that is your fault. But the need to FORGIVE is still needed for you to come to a place of peace.
Forgive yourself and others...Let it go. The reward is worth it.
Blessings
Love & Light
Wednesday, May 1, 2013
More Info
You can obtain more information and how to in my book Healing Your Heart. Go to books and there is a fast link to Amazon making it easy to buy. Available in both paperback and e-book.
Blessings on your journey.
Blessings on your journey.
Tuesday, April 30, 2013
Mirrors
Every day you are confronted with mirrors They may be people, anything that happens in your life whether is considered good or bad. You have a choice as to how you respond and use what happened or how you view those you interact with. No matter what or who these mirrors can help you heal problems/issues you have and make it possible for you to change the course and way your life is headed. You have the opportunity to better understand yourself and come to terms with the unhealthy beliefs you hold towards self and release them. Thus you change your life. You will find more inner calm and happiness.
But, how do you understand what these mirrors are telling you.Everything that happens, even on a daily basis, relates to your life up until this moment and its relationship to how you accept or reject parts of who you have become. If someone rejects you and you feel unloved them you can look back to acknowledge who you really feel doesn't love you. Did a parent reject you, abandon or push you away? That is the individual you really want to love you, not the one who is currently rejecting you. Then it's important for you to understand that that person will never love you and what do you do about it?
What you do is understand that no one will ever love you the way you want or need. Therefore it is up to you to love yourself. I don't mean this in a self-center way. I mean love and accept you and comfort you instead of needing to go to others for that love and comfort. Go in your "Heart" to love you not your mind. Nothing will heal or release if you do nothing but analyze the problem. Loving self will help you and you will find forgiveness for others as well as yourself.
Life can and will change if you use others and situations as mirrors to better understand what you think of self.
Blessings
In Love & Light
But, how do you understand what these mirrors are telling you.Everything that happens, even on a daily basis, relates to your life up until this moment and its relationship to how you accept or reject parts of who you have become. If someone rejects you and you feel unloved them you can look back to acknowledge who you really feel doesn't love you. Did a parent reject you, abandon or push you away? That is the individual you really want to love you, not the one who is currently rejecting you. Then it's important for you to understand that that person will never love you and what do you do about it?
What you do is understand that no one will ever love you the way you want or need. Therefore it is up to you to love yourself. I don't mean this in a self-center way. I mean love and accept you and comfort you instead of needing to go to others for that love and comfort. Go in your "Heart" to love you not your mind. Nothing will heal or release if you do nothing but analyze the problem. Loving self will help you and you will find forgiveness for others as well as yourself.
Life can and will change if you use others and situations as mirrors to better understand what you think of self.
Blessings
In Love & Light
Wednesday, April 17, 2013
Healing the Body from Abuse/Attack
This is one of the techniques I use to help myself an d others heal from rape and abuse. I will share another, very important, technique for reclaiming the part of you that was taken away another time.
Dr. Phil addressed the issue of Domestic Violence on his show. Anyone who has been abuse/attacked continues to carry the energy of their attacker. The following technique is one way to begin releasing said energy. Also, try different forms of body work. This technique comes from my book 71 Fun Ways to Make Life Easier.
Name Physical Traits
This is a really good technique to use when the “Gold Sun” technique isn’t enough. Some individual’s energy is more difficult to send back because they want to remain attached to you for whatever the reason. To further separate your energies you will use “positive” physical traits or characteristics. This helps to further distinguish you from him or her. Also, because the person may be more difficult to eliminate from your energy, be clear of your intent. It is your intent to bring your energy back to your body from their body and send their energy back to them from your body. Whenever you have clear intent, be sure you are coming from your heart. If you get mad because the person is hanging on and send your intent with that anger you won’t be successful. Generally people hang on to someone because they want attention, to be noticed or possibly forgiven. When you send them your anger they will hang on until you accept or love them. I don’t mean deep emotional love. I mean loving acceptance of who they are and that they exist.
Here’s how it works. With loving intent use five to ten “positive” physical characteristic differences between you and someone else. You may need to name more than ten depending on how attached the individual is to your energy. The example below will help you. Avoid using negative terms to describe characteristics. For example, instead of saying, “I have long nails, and she doesn’t have long nails,” say, “I have long nails and her nails are short.” Always use the verbiage, “My name is and her/his name is.” This defines whom you are describing and whose energy belongs where. If you don't know their name use "He" has....
My name is Tony.
I have blonde hair.
Her name is Anne.
She has brown hair.
My name is Tony.
I am a male.
Her name is Anne.
She is a female.
My name is Tony.
I have blue eyes.
Her name is Anne.
She has green eyes.
Other traits or characteristic differences that you can use are your age; whether you are married, single or divorced; number of siblings or children; where you live, by either the street, city or state; height or weight; or the type or number of pets. As you can see it’s not just the physical characteristics of the body that distinguish you from others. You can include anything that is around you that is different from their surroundings. The more differences you come up with the better the separation of energies.
You may feel your energies separate or you may not. It’s not necessary for you to feel the energy shifts within your body. (The more you work with energy the more sensitive you will become to feeling the energy changes.) Even though you don’t feel a shift or change in your body, you should begin to feel better emotionally and physically. Eventually you will stop thinking about or feeling the presence of the other person.
Blessings on your Healing!
Dr. Phil addressed the issue of Domestic Violence on his show. Anyone who has been abuse/attacked continues to carry the energy of their attacker. The following technique is one way to begin releasing said energy. Also, try different forms of body work. This technique comes from my book 71 Fun Ways to Make Life Easier.
Name Physical Traits
This is a really good technique to use when the “Gold Sun” technique isn’t enough. Some individual’s energy is more difficult to send back because they want to remain attached to you for whatever the reason. To further separate your energies you will use “positive” physical traits or characteristics. This helps to further distinguish you from him or her. Also, because the person may be more difficult to eliminate from your energy, be clear of your intent. It is your intent to bring your energy back to your body from their body and send their energy back to them from your body. Whenever you have clear intent, be sure you are coming from your heart. If you get mad because the person is hanging on and send your intent with that anger you won’t be successful. Generally people hang on to someone because they want attention, to be noticed or possibly forgiven. When you send them your anger they will hang on until you accept or love them. I don’t mean deep emotional love. I mean loving acceptance of who they are and that they exist.
Here’s how it works. With loving intent use five to ten “positive” physical characteristic differences between you and someone else. You may need to name more than ten depending on how attached the individual is to your energy. The example below will help you. Avoid using negative terms to describe characteristics. For example, instead of saying, “I have long nails, and she doesn’t have long nails,” say, “I have long nails and her nails are short.” Always use the verbiage, “My name is and her/his name is.” This defines whom you are describing and whose energy belongs where. If you don't know their name use "He" has....
My name is Tony.
I have blonde hair.
Her name is Anne.
She has brown hair.
My name is Tony.
I am a male.
Her name is Anne.
She is a female.
My name is Tony.
I have blue eyes.
Her name is Anne.
She has green eyes.
Other traits or characteristic differences that you can use are your age; whether you are married, single or divorced; number of siblings or children; where you live, by either the street, city or state; height or weight; or the type or number of pets. As you can see it’s not just the physical characteristics of the body that distinguish you from others. You can include anything that is around you that is different from their surroundings. The more differences you come up with the better the separation of energies.
You may feel your energies separate or you may not. It’s not necessary for you to feel the energy shifts within your body. (The more you work with energy the more sensitive you will become to feeling the energy changes.) Even though you don’t feel a shift or change in your body, you should begin to feel better emotionally and physically. Eventually you will stop thinking about or feeling the presence of the other person.
Blessings on your Healing!
Monday, April 1, 2013
Miracles
sorry not everything came through in previous post--it's now complete
Some are calling me a miracle and here"s why. Generally anyone with stage 4 cancer is looked at "going to die". I was diagnosed in Oct 2009 as stage 4, expected to be dead by the end of 2011 for sure by 2012. Two Dr.'s told me to enter Hospice the summer of 2012. I did and left in Oct 2012 because I didn't feel like the end was that close. I did go home and say good-bye to my family in Oct 2012.
In the meantime I looked at my issues of not deserving to live and a freaky one that was a result of my religious upbringing. I was made to feel like I was a "bad girl" for having sex before marriage. I discovered that my subconscious now felt that the cancer was my punishment. I know logically that isn't true but the imprinting of religion over road those thoughts. But the point of my bringing these issues up is that by healing them I believe a miracle has happened. I decided, after years of wanting to die, that I actually wanted to live. But, in the past 3.5 yrs have been given numerous opportunities to die and yet I'm still here.
Some are calling me a miracle and here"s why. Generally anyone with stage 4 cancer is looked at "going to die". I was diagnosed in Oct 2009 as stage 4, expected to be dead by the end of 2011 for sure by 2012. Two Dr.'s told me to enter Hospice the summer of 2012. I did and left in Oct 2012 because I didn't feel like the end was that close. I did go home and say good-bye to my family in Oct 2012.
In the meantime I looked at my issues of not deserving to live and a freaky one that was a result of my religious upbringing. I was made to feel like I was a "bad girl" for having sex before marriage. I discovered that my subconscious now felt that the cancer was my punishment. I know logically that isn't true but the imprinting of religion over road those thoughts. But the point of my bringing these issues up is that by healing them I believe a miracle has happened. I decided, after years of wanting to die, that I actually wanted to live. But, in the past 3.5 yrs have been given numerous opportunities to die and yet I'm still here.
I know that my attitude, healing my issues and deciding to
live has changed everything for me. I
may not get 20 yrs but the fact that I have gone from stage 4 to remission is a
MIRACLE in and of itself. Remission
means that there are no new cells, some have reduced in size while others have
dissolved.
BELIEVE IN MIRACLES AND HEAL THE ISSUES THAT KEEP THE
MIRACLE FROM HAPPENING!!!
Blessing
In Love & Light
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